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Your Love Language, Based on Your Myers-Briggs Personality Type

Knowing your love language can help you deepen your connection and bond with your partner. Perhaps you already know yours…or do you?

We’re going to dive deep into what exactly your Myers Briggs love language is (and your partner’s) and how you can both express your love better with each other.

Not sure what we’re talking about when we say Myers Briggs?

Myers Briggs is a personality test that helps identify your personality strengths, weaknesses, and preferences. If you haven’t already completed the Myers-Briggs personality test, now is the time! You’ll discover so much about yourself and why you do what you do.

Now, let’s get down to business. How do the Myers-Briggs personalities love? What is your Myers Briggs relationship compatibility?

But First…The 5 Love Languages

The love languages define how you want someone to show love for you. Your specific love language is how you feel loved and cared about. When your partner knows your love language, they can cater to them, and vice versa.

The five love languages are:

So, how does your Myers Briggs love language measure up? Is it accurate? Let’s find out.

Your Love Language, Based on Your Myers-Briggs Personality Type

Intuitive & Thinking (NT) Personalities: INTJ, INTP, ENTJ, ENTP

INTJ

While INTJs may struggle to show their love and affection, it doesn’t mean they don’t.

This Myers-Briggs personality loves intellectual connection. Thus, it only makes sense that their top love language is quality time. They want to spend time with the one they love to learn about them and vice versa.

INTP

INTPs much rather you show them how much you love you through quality time and words of affirmation. Often not particularly excited about one-on-one time, they contradict themselves by loving it when they love someone else.

ENTJ

The ENTJ personality falls right in line with the other intuitive thinkers.

ENTJ also appreciates quality time, as well as some physical touch. Yet, words of affirmation also come in a close second. In other words, if you’re partner is an ENTJ, hug them! They’ll feel closer to you for it.

ENTP

It probably comes as no surprise that an ENTP Myers Briggs personality also ranks high in quality time, words of affirmation, and physical touch, with all of them pretty equal to each other!

They love to share time going on adventures and learning new things with their partner.

Hint: This could be a great date idea!

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Intuitive & Feeling (NF) Personalities: INFJ, INFP, ENFJ, ENFP

INFJ

INFJs are very responsive to words of affirmation and physical touch. However, they won’t say no to quality time. In other words, there are a ton of ways to show this personality exactly how much you care.

INFP

INFPs are sometimes perfectionists. Yet, when it comes to their relationships, they prefer simplicity when it comes to showing them affection. They love spending quality time with their partner, hearing words of affirmation, and getting down with some physical touch.

ENFJ

ENFJ’s Myers Briggs love language is quality time (who doesn’t love some good solid time with the one they love?). This makes sense since ENFJs are very in touch with their emotional side and love diving into this with their partner.

ENFP

ENFP’s tend to stress a little more than the rest of us (sorry, guys).

Through this, you might already be able to guess what Myers Briggs love language ENFP leans more toward. If you guessed words of affirmation, you’re bang on. ENFPs need reassurance and feelings of security, especially when they get a little high-strung.

Sensing & Judging (SJ) Personalities: ISTJ, ISFJ, ESTJ, ESFJ

ISTJ

ISTJ personalities may come off as rather rigid.

Yet, if they’re taking the time to get to know you, it means something! At the top of their love language preferences is quality time. Consider it an honor that this personality is carving out time for you and do them a favor by doing the same.

ESTJ

Praise the ESTJ personality with words of affirmation. Or spend time with them! While they are social butterflies, they’ll love both of these, deepening your connection and bringing you closer together.

ISFJ

ISFJ’s Myers Briggs love language is also quality time, with words of affirmation and acts of service not far behind.

They love spending time with you and appreciate you taking time for them. However, they’ll also be thrilled by a surprise dinner put together by their partner (as acts of service) or caring and kind words (as acts of affirmation).

ESFJ

Since ESFJs tend to fly on the energy of other people, it’s pretty clear why their love language is words of affirmation and quality time. They love hearing positive reinforcement and when you take the time to spend doing activities (or even just chatting) with them.

Make sure to read: The Worst Traits Of Each Myers-Briggs Personality, Debunked

Sensing & Prospecting (SP) Personalities: ISTP, ISFP, ESTP, ESFP

ISTP

An ISTP personality loves physical and sensory experiences. Thus, physical touch and words of affirmation are their top love languages. Give this personality a cuddle and tell them how much you care!

ESTP

ESTP personalities like being practical.

So, gifts fall last on their love language radar. Instead, they prefer quality time and acts of service. They are usually the “doers,” thus they love it when someone else is willing to take that duty off their hands for a space of time.

ISFP

ISFPs live in the moment.

They don’t worry about the future, at least not too much. They’re accepting but also quiet and reserved. Their love language? Words of affirmation and quality time! Once you get these guys out of their shells, they’ll also appreciate acts of service and physical touch (and, when appropriate, gifts).

ESFP

ESFP is the class clown, meaning they don’t really mind being the center of attention.

They love physical touch and quality time when others are showing love to them. Yet, words of affirmation follow close behind. On the other end of the scale, acts of service and gifts tend to rank fairly low for this Myers-Briggs personality!

Show Your Love!

View the list above with your partner and discover each other’s Myers Briggs love languages.

How do you measure up? Are there better ways you can be showing your love to the person you care the most about? Possibly! If anything, this can make you stronger and bring you closer together.

Related article: Your Self-Love Ritual, Based on Your Myers Briggs Personality Type

Krista Bugden

Krista Bugden

"Believing in yourself is really half the battle," says Krista. Anything is possible and you really can achieve anything you set your mind to, is her motto. Physiotherapist, Piano player, skydiver, yogi, adventure traveler and energetic force of positivity, Krista is herself a (delightful) force to be reckoned with! As... Read More

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